Are You Waiting To Be Chosen?

Choice, it’s a powerful “thing”. And it’s funny, I think we or at least I, sometimes forget there’s always a choice. I mean, even the choice to do nothing is still a choice.

BUT when it comes to choosing ourselves, do we? Or do we wait and wait and wait for others to choose us?

Do you remember playing games on recess like Dodge-ball or Kickball? There was always a team captain who got to choose who was on their team. I was never very athletic so I often got chosen close to last.

Fast forward to adulthood; dating apps that swipe left or right, and likes on social media come into view. Seeking others’ validation, hinging our self-worth on being chosen for a job, an assignment, or a promotion…all signs we’re waiting on others to choose us.

BEING AN OPTION

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.” — Maya Angelou

For more than half my life I made everyone and I mean everyone a priority. I people-pleased the shit out of my relationships. I molded, melded, twisted, and turned myself inside out to be chosen, to be validated as a worthwhile human, to be accepted. I chased after the Facebook likes, and the Twitter follows because I thought it made me a “somebody”.