Expectations are a bitch!

Have you ever expected someone to take your feelings into consideration, only to be hurt when they didn’t?

During a time when you were struggling have you ever expected someone near and dear to check-in? Then when they didn’t you felt hurt and resentful?

Have you ever expected someone to be there for you in the same way you’ve been there for them? Then when they didn’t show up as you would have, you found yourself royally ticked off?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above, you’re definitely not alone. Me too, to all of the above…many times over, actually.

A TURNING POINT

OK, so you’d think after being disappointed and having my feelings hurt repeatedly, I’d maybe get the hint that having expectations of others might not be a good thing.

Nope. Didn’t get that hint…

Expect, hurt.
Expect, disappointment.
Expect, resentment.
Expect, anger.

My expectations were clearly on the rinse and repeat cycle until a coach I was working with made a suggestion.

Lower my expectations of others.

Pardon me?! What?! Lower my expectations!?