Smoothing Ruffled Feathers

Have your feathers ever been ruffled by someone doing something you didn’t agree with, even though it had nothing to do with you?

As I was preparing to write this post, an acquaintance popped into my head. She’s a perfect example of someone who ruffles my feathers.

This acquaintance makes everything, and I mean everything, about herself. It doesn’t matter what you’re talking about, she’ll find a way to redirect the conversation back on to her. And if someone does something or says something she doesn’t like, she’ll put a passive-aggressive post on Facebook and play the “woe is me” card. It drives me nuts!!

I want to pull her aside and say, “Hey Chica, there are other people in your world. It’s not just about you. Try focusing on them for a bit. Oh, and by the way, if someone ticks you off, rather than post some passive-aggressive BS on Facebook, why don’t you take it off Facebook? Why don’t you try having an adult conversation instead?”

Meet my judge and jury. Uh-huh. There they are finding her guilty of perceived wrong-doings.

It’s clear, based on how ruffled my feathers get, that I’ve got expectations of how she “should” behave. Ummm, that’s really not my place at all.

Here’s the REAL kicker; my feathers being ruffled doesn’t impact my acquaintance. She doesn’t know…